Everything Happens for a Reason...pt 2

The old Chinese folktale about the farmer, his son and horse perfectly explains the title of this posting. I will repeat it here again:

There lived an old farmer with his son at the northern frontiers. He had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbours came to condole over his terrible loss. The farmer said, "What makes you think it is so terrible?"

A month later, the horse came home--this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbours became excited at the farmer's good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, "What makes you think this is good fortune?"

The farmer's son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg. All the neighbours were very distressed. Such bad luck! The farmer said, "What makes you so sure this isn't a blessing?"

A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man was conscripted and sent into battle. The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men. Only the farmer's son, because he had a broken leg, remained. Only because the son was lame did the father and son survive to take care of each other. Truly, blessing turns to disaster, and disaster to blessing: the changes have no end, nor can the mystery be fathomed.

Look back to your life now. Have there ever been events that if you look at it now you would say they were turning points in life whereby you were forced to make decisions as to which path to take. At that time, you may not have been pleased with the decision you have made. Neither were you happy at the circumstances that drove you to such crossroads nor forced you down any one path. But because you made that decision or took a certain path, events (positively perceived or negatively perceived) unfolded, that led you to places and people that made major impacts in your life. Impacts that enriched your life so much that you would not exchange it for anything else. And all that was possible only because of events that were perceived to be bad at the time of happening.

From my own life experience, events that happened almost two decades ago took me down a path that I actually hated but that path took me to people and other events that eventually brought me to where I am with the knowledge and growth that I now possess. All that would not have been possible if that event did not happen almost 20 years ago.

EVERYTHING happens for a reason.

What if you want to attract love and be joyously happy? But then you get caught up in the details of WHO, and you think that a particular person is the answer to your perfect relationship. The Universe can see way into the future, and it knows if a particular person will fulfill your dream or become your nightmare. When you don't receive the love of a particular person, you might think the law is not working. But it is working. Your greatest desire is to attract love and be joyously happy, and the Universe is saying, "Not him or not her, and please get out of the way, I am trying to deliver the perfect person to you."

I can again relate this from my own life experience on how I met my better half. I had just recovered from breaking up with my ex after a 4 year relationship and actually started dating an attractive lady. We both liked each other. Her job takes her offshore for extended periods but we keep in touch whenever we can. She never fails to call me whenever she returns home from abroad. She had many qualities that I liked but somehow it’s like things are stuck. Then for some reason, she said to me not to continue waiting for her as she does not know when she can be ready to settle down due to her job commitment. If it happens it happens, if I find someone else, she is ok with me letting her go. I was like, “what the hell?” Well, to cut a long story short, I knew what I wanted in my life partner but I was very fixated on the lady that I was dating. So though I would really liked to have settled down with her, I surrendered to the universe my criteria for a life partner not expecting anyone else to meet that criteria. Other girls came and went while I still dated her with her full knowledge (I sensed that she was a bit sad probably with the prospect of possibly losing out). Then one day someone arranged a blind date for me and I was like “Oh come on... you have got to be kidding me”. But a friend present at that time said to me, “So what if it’s a blind date. You won’t know where it would lead you do you?”. So I decided to give it a try, what have I got to lose anyway. Lo and behold, that decision led me to the woman who would later become my spouse. She has all the criteria that I have listed down (I should have listed more “grin”) and today I have a beautiful family.

If I had stubbornly stuck to the status quo at that time, would I have what I have today in another form? Maybe... maybe not... but I would not exchange what I have now for sure.

Therefore be very careful about getting caught up in the "who," "where," "when," or "how," because you could block your true desire from being delivered to you.

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Everything happens for a reason pt 1

Watch Your Thoughts

What are you thinking when you open your curtains in the morning and when you close them at night? What are you thinking when you first put your shoes on and when you take them off at the end of the day? You don’t remember don’t you. That’s normal. Most of us are not aware of our thoughts and hence our minds play games with us. While we are driving to work, our thoughts drift to events that have taken place yesterday or further in the past. And before we know it, we have arrived in the office and seated down on our chair at our workstation. There are instances where people have resigned company A to join company B located at different locations in the city and because their thoughts float as they drive to work, they end up at the front door of company A and they wonder why their access cards can’t open the door. And then it hits them that they have resigned and are supposed to be reporting to company B at the other side of town.

Most of us just do not have any control over our thoughts. While I am not suggesting that we attempt to rigidly control it, I do suggest that we be mindful of it and watch our thoughts instead of letting it wander. By doing that, we can then start to choose what type of thought we would allow in and what not.

You see... thoughts have energy hence some esoteric schools actually refer to our thoughts as thought forms. It is a creation of our mind and every thought form that we create is an entity by itself. And this entity can materialize into the physical form. Therefore collective as a human race, if we all think doom and gloom, that is what we will create in our physical world.

Napoleon Hill’s immortalised book “Think and Grow Rich” lists 13 steps how our thoughts can lead us to whatever we want. Where the mind goes, the body eventually follows. Hence if we keep our heads in the “dustbin”, the rest of our body (life) will eventually fall in. Esoteric schools even advice their students against thinking negative thoughts about others as that constitutes a psychic attack. And students of esoteric schools that involve manipulation of energies can be powerful magicians without their own knowledge. Their thought forms can even kill.

Fortunately positive thoughts are far more powerful than negative thoughts. What we need to do is retrain our minds such that we think only positive thoughts by default.

No-one can impact you with their negative thoughts if you are not on a negative frequency. You set your own frequency through your thoughts and feelings, and the better you feel the higher the positive frequency you are on, and the higher the thoughts you have access to. Negative thoughts of others cannot reach you there.

So coming back to the 1st paragraph of this post...What are you thinking when you open your curtains in the morning and when you close them at night? What are you thinking when you first put your shoes on and when you take them off at the end of the day? Use the power of the Universe during these four everyday actions, and say with all of your heart: "Thank you for the most incredible day!"