Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Ending a Romantic Relationship (updated)

The famous Marriage/family Counselor, Virginia Satir said, “Communication is to a Relationship what Breathing is to Living.” In other words, for any relationship to work, the pre-requisite is to have open communication channels. Where the lines of communication are not open, the relationship is as good as doomed to failure.

But what if the future of the relationship already looks bleak i.e. you think you have already exhausted all avenues to make it work.

Well, first and foremost, know that divorce is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it is the right choice. Life is too precious for one to hang on to a relationship that no longer serves one’s higher purpose. Neither should one leave the relationship too soon. I most certainly do not advocate what most young people now do i.e. they are quick to talk about breaking up when there was the first sign of an argument or disagreement. This is childish and should be stopped especially if you have this pattern going on. Every couple should make an agreement and a spiritual vow not to speak of breaking up unless you really mean it. And this should be only after all other options have been attempted. It is amazing how a simple agreement like this can sometimes make an enormous difference in the relationship. There was an incident whereby a young lady kept talking about divorce to her husband and they were just two weeks into their marriage. Within two weeks, she moved back to her mother’s house. Sigh!

Therefore, before going down that line of mutual separation, every couple should first deal with the feelings of disappointment in their relationship. Were expectations too high and unrealistic? Note that no one is to blame here. It must be understood that disappointment stems from attachment, addiction etc. According to Dr David Stone, it gets back to the lesson of needing to have only strong preferences. Happiness needs to be inside of self, not based on what another person does. There is nothing wrong with having strong preferences. But the nature of a preference is that you are happy whatever the outcome.

If we are disappointed in a relationship, that is a sign of having expectations which are the same as addictions and attachments. Now again this is the ideal. If you can’t shake it by the process of attitudinal healing within self, then share it with your partner. Again this comes down to communication.

Most of the time, by sitting down and communicating with one’s spouse, most issues can be addressed and the couple can re-align to common goals and move on. So.. when couples or one party in the relationship talks about breaking up (divorce), have they really exhausted all avenues? Perhaps there are ways to save it after all. But of course, it would take two hands to clap. However, let’s just assume that there don’t seem to be much to look forward to anymore... it really is a bleak situation.

Well, in the context of Karma, we need to know if a relationship is really worthwhile to continue. The key here is that we should never leave a relationship until you learn the lessons of that relationship. Otherwise you are destined to repeat the same lessons again with a new partner!

Therefore, one should never make such a decision (to divorce) when one is emotionally triggered. When one has calmed down and is more objective, one must consider if the person you are involved with meets enough of your preferences (or criteria in a spouse). No person on this planet Earth or in the infinite universe will meet all your preferences. They will just have to meet enough of them to make the relationship worthwhile. If you are in at a lost on this, a good start would be to make a list of all the things you hope for in your spouse and your relationship. And I do mean actually writing it down (or typing it out). Then you need to also have a list of all the reasons why you would want to remain in this relationship, and then a list of why you want to get out.

Once it is written down, you can then look at it objectively to know what you are getting and what you are not getting to see if the relationship meets enough of your preferences for it to be worthwhile. What may be worthwhile for a few years may not be for the long run. There just are no hard and fast rules on this. This is an exercise to do by yourself, between you and God. It will give you a very realistic look at your reality and the choices you are making.

In the event that the decision is made to end the relationship, it should be ended with total love, forgiveness and non-judgment. In other words, you should part in good terms. Otherwise, you will have to reincarnate with that person or another like that one in a future life. If you forgive and end in unconditional love, and your partner doesn’t, you are freed from the karma, and your partner who is holding a grudge will have to reincarnate in a future life with someone similar to you who did not learn the lesson. For you to be freed, you do not need your partner to learn the lesson; you only have to learn your own lessons.

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Thursday, October 11, 2012

Our True Nature

Many personal development experts, motivational speakers and spiritual gurus have explained to the masses, in their own ways, directly or indirectly, our true nature. Being created in His likeness, your true nature is love, and the proof is that you have an unlimited supply of it within you. No human being has a lesser amount, nor does anyone have limits on the amount of love they can bring forth from within them. The almighty power of love ignites the law of attraction - it is the strongest magnetic force in the Universe.

The truth will set you free. All the pain and suffering in the world has come from people not knowing the immutable cosmic laws of the Universe. The principles within The Secret were given to each person to prove the cosmic law for themselves. Prove it to yourself, and the truth will set you free.

As you practice and practice the law of attraction, the vibrations of your thoughts and feelings go higher and higher. There is no limit to how high they can vibrate, and as they vibrate higher and higher your life becomes higher and higher. This is a step-by-step process however, and the only way to go higher is step by step. So feel as good as you can each day, think as many good thoughts as you can each day, and you will get there! 

Although there is much to learn and much to study, the Truth of Life is in everything in the world around you, if you have the eyes to see. It is only our ignorance and fixed beliefs that blind us to the Truth. Continue to ask questions within yourself, continue to learn, continue to let go of fixed beliefs, and the Truth will unfold within you.

In fact, at every level we are constantly learning as new truths emerge at higher levels when we are ready for it. But that would be for another write up that I’ll do later.

As Anthony Robbins put it, as human beings, we are motivated by two things: pain and pleasure. We are pushed away from what pains us and towards what pleasures us. No human being would ever deliberately bring anything to them that they did not want, but unfortunately throughout the history of humanity many human beings have suffered pain, sorrow, and loss because they were not aware of the one law that affects their lives more than any other. The course of history has now changed, because you have the knowledge of the law of attraction and you can create the life you deserve. You are changing history!

In the context of the Law of Attraction, suffice to say that you must speak as though you have what you want now. This is very important. The law responds exactly to your thoughts and words, and so if you see something as being in the future you are actually stopping it from happening now. You must feel it as though you have it now.

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Monday, October 8, 2012

The Master Within You - All Answers Are Within


The vast majority of people go through their whole lives chasing everything in the material world. We want more money, more wealth... this car, that house etc. We get so caught up with “life’s treasures” that we fail to discover the greatest treasure of all, which is within us. Shut your eyes to the outside world. Direct your thoughts and words to the inside of you. Go within yourself. The Master within you is the key to all the treasures in the world.

How is the movie of your life going? 
Do you need to make any script changes on money, health, or relationships? Is there any editing that you want to do? 

The Now moment, The “Today” is the day to make any changes to your movie that you want, because today's changes will be screening tomorrow. You are creating the movie of your life and it is in your hands - every single day. However, in order to do so, would require you to go within you and be the Master that you are.

The perfect vehicle that is your body is exactly like a movie projector, and the film running through the projector is all of your thoughts and feelings. Everything you see on the screen of your life is what has been projected from within you, and is what you have put into the film. By choosing higher thoughts and feelings you can change what you see on the screen at any time. You have complete control of what goes into your film!

When you are undecided on which way to turn or what path to follow, remember there is one who knows and will guide you through every decision and turn in your life. All you have to do is ask, believe you will receive the guidance you want, and then stay alert to receive your answer. The Supreme Power of the Universe is with you every step you take, and all you have to do is rely upon its power and ask.

You have the master within you, and you are being guided in every single moment of your life. Think for yourself, and choose for yourself. You are receiving thousands of messages from the Universe every single day. Learn to become aware of this communication from the Universe, who is speaking to you and guiding you in every moment. There are no accidents and no coincidences. Every sign you notice, every word you hear spoken, every color, every scent, every sound, every event and situation is the Universe speaking to you, and you are the only one who knows their relevance to you, and what the communication is saying. Use your eyes to see! Use your ears to listen! Use all of your senses, because you are receiving communication through them all!

Science is only starting to unravel this mystery and they are barely scratching the surface to our true nature.

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Friday, October 5, 2012

Free Will and Karma

Part of this article is based on Sal Rachele’s channelling.

Eastern religions believe in Karma (or “cause and effect”). Western religions do not place much emphasis on it other than to mention cause and effect. Even then, they would say “cause and effect” is different to karma. New Age philosophies emphasize more on Free Will. With such differing school of thoughts is it any wonder that we get all confused as to which is right or wrong?

Well, to start with, I wouldn’t say that any school of thought is right or wrong. I prefer to say that they are all somewhat right because they all place different emphasis on each of the above. You see, truth is not the exclusivity of any one culture, religion or part of the world.

Karma IS “Cause and effect” but without the over emphasis that eastern religions place on the subject. And there is Free Will that “reigns” surpreme. I say “reigns” in inverted commas because at a higher plane of existence (dimension) your free will equals God’s Will. You will choose no other but the one that gives you the highest bliss and at that level it is none other than God’s Will.

We will look at both Free Will and Karma separately

Free Will
This is a greatly misunderstood subject. When I say Free Will, I do not mean the free will to change universal laws. Free Will only means that you can choose what to take on at a given time. Eg: a soul’s lessons (karma) can be a long, slow and painful journey for most ordinary folks. However, it can also be short and dispelled rather quickly by learning the lesson fast and through forgiveness, letting go, embracing the present etc. However, for most people this would be next to impossible as they are too caught up with “life” that they do not stop to take stock on where they are. All motivational speakers and personal development trainers advocate the need for us to take stock on where we are. But not many of us who attended those trainings take it with us outside the training room (or seminar hall). Dispelling karma is only possible with awareness and the willingness to understand the traps and detours of the ego. The more aware we become, the higher we climb on the spiritual ladder (or dimensional scale).

There are limitations to Free Will too. Within a given dimension, there is a certain amount of free choice. Why? When we enter a certain vibrational density (or dimension), we automatically abide by the laws that govern that density or dimension. The exception is that you come from a higher dimension with the sole purpose of guiding those in the lower dimension into higher realms. Even then, you will still be somewhat limited or governed by laws of the lower realms. For example: Jesus, Buddha and the other great Avatars of our time were able to perform so-called miracles because they used the laws of higher dimensions to supersede the laws of 3rd dimension. I will take the opportunity to state here that we are all, at present on Earth, in the 3rd dimension. New Agers will tell you that we are all in the process of shifting to a higher dimension at present. Some say 4th dimension. Some say all the way to 5th dimension. Hence all the upheaval on this planet today as old structures are being dismantled and deconstructed in order for new ones to be put in place. But that’s another story for another time.

Generally, most people confuse free will with their own ego-based decision making. Eg: Say a couple is going through a bad patch in their relationship. Say the husband attends a personal development seminar. After completing the seminar, he decides to terminate the relationship with the spouse claiming his free will. But the problem with the relationship could actually be him and not her. In a situation like this, it is quite obvious its the man’s ego making the decision and not true free will.

Free Will and Ego based decision making are not the same. It really depends on what level of awareness we are coming from. One way to look at this is to consider that very few of us actually have free will. This is due to our own habits, belief system, conditioning and programming. From higher dimensional points of view (6th or higher), it is all free will. At some point (pre-incarnation etc) we made a decision to have a veil put over our awareness in order to experience “life”. This subjected us to the laws and deceptions inherent in the 3rd dimension without remembering the knowledge of how to transcend them. While this may seem strange that we would do that to ourselves, it actually isn’t. Our soul chooses to learn certain lessons and hence experience its creation. The veil serves to enrich our experience as we re-discover and learn the lessons that our soul desires to learn. However, being stuck in 3rd dimension illusions, we then made decisions based on fear, scarcity, need for approval, etc. Many motivational and personal development speakers have taught about our need to feel accepted and gain approval etc so I will not go into that further. Anyway, once we realize this and then consciously choose to step out of the routine i.e. use our free will to choose awareness over ignorance, then our future decisions are not dominated by fear and 3rd dimension illusions.

There is a certain amount of pre-destiny inherent in the Divine Plan. Eventually, all of us will ascend into higher realms. We have within our DNA the blueprint for ascension. However, we can by exercising our free will, delay the perfect unfoldment of that DNA blueprint. In a temporary sense, we can override it with negative beliefs and stuck emotions. In actuality, if we let go of our judgments, guilt, fear and constant worry and strife, the program unfolds more easily. Let it go and let it flow -- and it DOES just magically happen. But the paradox is, we must work hard to unlearn all the lies and distortions we have been taught for millennia that says the path to enlightenment is a struggle -- you know, "no pain, no gain" and all that.

Our exercise of free will is dependent on what aspect of the self we identify with. We may seem to be bound by the laws of the physical world, but only if we are attached to that perception. For example, once we let go of our identification with the body, we are no longer at the mercy of the medical profession. We are then free to let our spiritual awareness decide what is best for our bodies.

In summary, I believe free will is what one has when one is free of all illusions. Probably none of us on planet Earth have true free will because our wills are imprisoned by limiting thoughts and beliefs. But then, when we are free of all illusions, the concept of free will becomes meaningless anyway because there is only God's Will, which is the creative force. And as stated earlier, at higher levels of existence, your free will equals God’s Will as that gives you the highest bliss.

Law of Karma
Coming back to Karma; Karma is basically the soul’s lessons. You as a soul have elected to learn certain lessons to enrich the soul’s creation (or separation from the Divine). Basically your soul is experiencing its own creation to enrich the One Source.

The law of karma (or cause and effect) is a 4th dimensional principle. That means it operates in the 1st to 4th dimensions, but not the higher ones. The common perception of karma involves the idea that what goes around comes around. And for Eastern religions, karma is a big thing. This is partly true, but only if one is stuck in the lower four dimensions. Once we fully understand our actions, behaviours, thoughts, feelings and perceptions, we can then use our free will to consciously create a different path of karma. By aligning our heart, mind and body (or all your etheric bodies to put it simply), we can make a decision with our whole being, thereby avoiding what is called “residual karma.” The idea of residual karma involves incomplete decisions, or decisions that leave a lot of unfinished business. If we come to a closure with our relationships, and keep to our agreements, we do not create additional karma. When we forgive ourselves, we actually erase karma.

To repeat a major idea, a stumbling block in understanding karma and free will involves the “all is illusion” viewpoint of eastern religion that people use to escape responsibility for everyday life and to avoid looking at issues.

If you consciously let another person choose a life fish to be cooked thinking that the other person is the one creating karma and that you are not, but you also look forward to eating the deliciously cooked fresh fish when it is served, then you are greatly mistaken.

What these arrogant I-am-mightier-than-thou detached souls fail to realize is that love (or compassion) is a higher law, and love will respond to suffering. It may not necessarily involve preaching to the other person on the virtues of being kind to animals and that we should go vegan. But it will most certainly not involve going into denial about the suffering of others nor the hypocrisy that it is not your karma. Having compassion towards the suffering is not the same thing as sitting detached in intellectual supremacy, while rationalizing about the suffering.

Thankfully the 5th Dimension Law of Love (or unconditional love or compassion) supersedes the 4th Dimension Law of Karma. No one can attain the 5th Dimension without letting go of intellectual superiority and embracing God’s Unconditional Love and Compassion. So God’s Love transcends karma.

5th dimensional consciousness is love and unity, and love always finds some way to respond to a call for help. Millions of our brothers and sisters are calling out for help, and the Love Within will respond if we open to it. Love's help may or may not appear as outer action, but closing our hearts to suffering is definitely not a 5th Dimension response. The response can be in many ways: physically, energetically etc.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

From the Secret - Giving, Receiving and Having Faith


Whatever you want to bring into your life, you must GIVE it. Do you want love? Then give it. Do you want appreciation? Then give it. Do you want understanding? Then give it. Do you want joy and happiness? Then give it to others.

You have the ability to give so much love, appreciation, understanding, and happiness to so many people every single day!

The fastest way to receive is to give, because giving starts the reciprocal action of receiving. We all receive according to how much we give. Give the best of you everywhere you go. Give a smile. Give thanks. Give kindness. Give love.

Your giving should be a giving without expectation of return - a giving for the sheer joy of it. Not forced giving. That does not work.

The ancient Babylonians practiced a vital law that was the cause of their immense prosperity. They used the tithing law, which involves giving one-tenth of all money or riches that you receive. The tithing law says that you must give to receive, and the Babylonians knew that the practice of this law opened up the flow of abundance.

If you are thinking, "I will give when I have enough money," then the tithing law says you will never have enough money, because you have to give first. Many of the wealthiest people on the planet tithed their way to wealth, and they have never stopped tithing!

Because everything already exists in the spiritual world, what you want also exists, and in fact it has always existed because there is no time in the spiritual world. That can be a difficult idea for our limited physical minds to understand. But the important point is that if what you want already exists, then you will understand that the moment you ask it is given to you. And all you have to do to bring what you want from the spiritual to the material world is to emit the exact same vibration as what you want. You do not have to create what you want, as it already exists.

BE the vibration of what you want, and you will bring it into the material world through you.

And you may ask, “how do I know that this will work?” Do not worry about the how. Just have faith that it will be lit up to you.

Every religion on the planet has told us to have FAITH.
Faith is trusting in the good.
Fear is putting your trust in the bad.

Faith is when you cannot see how, but you absolutely know that the moment you have the dream it is given to you, and all you have to do is relax and allow the Universe to magnetize you to your dream and your dream to you.


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Being a Beacon of Hope for others


You can be an inspiration for someone who is experiencing difficulties by not lowering yourself to their sadness, but by lifting them up through the light of your joy.

You will always know if you are being the light of inspiration by how you feel. If you can maintain your good feelings, the light of your joy is shining and bright. The moment you begin to feel heavy or not good you will know that the negativity of the problem is affecting you, and you really must step away and restore yourself to feeling good.

You have nothing to give anyone unless the joy within you is radiating outward.

There is no limit to how high you can increase your frequency, because there is no limit to the good thoughts you can think, or the good words you can speak, or the acts of kindness that you can perform. Besides transforming your own life through lifting your frequency, you lift others' lives too. The positive frequency of your energy emanates out like the ripple from a stone thrown into water, touching our planet and every living thing on it.

As you rise higher, you take the world with you.

No person or power in the outside world can compare to the power you have within you. Seek the power within, as it knows the perfect way for you.

Dhyan Vimal said “You are the rest of humanity”. In other words, if it were to be, it would be up to you. Each of us, individually, are the “rest of humanity”. Therefore, if we want something to change, it is up to us to change. Instead of looking for someone to inspire us, be the inspiration for others. And when you do, you find your purpose.

And when you find your purpose, it is like your heart has been set alight with passion. You know it absolutely, without any doubt."And in the words of Larry Diangi, "When your dream becomes your purpose, you become unstoppable".

A parting note: no matter what you do, at least half the world will be against you. So just do it anyway. And be a beacon for others.

Sunday, September 16, 2012

From the Secret - How to get what you want


Have any of us really asked ourselves what do we really want? Most of us go by life without thinking if the path we’re on is really the path we that we really want to be on. Neither do we stop to look if that path is taking us to the destination that we want to arrive at. Most of us are quite frankly in automation. The definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result”. Granted, it is not as simple as it sounds… finding out what you really want. But suppose that you do find out what you want, how do you go about getting it?

Well, where the Law of Attraction is concerned, supposing you found out what you wanted, your job, then, is to hold to the outcome of what you want, and to feel the outcome as though it is here now. That is your job. The HOW it will come about is the Universe's work. So many people trip up on this and try and work out the how.

Here is a simple example. A person wants to go to an expensive college, and so they try to work out how they will get the money for college. But the outcome is to be at the college. The person must focus on being at that college - that is their work.

Focus on the outcome and allow the Universe to use its infinite ways to make it happen.

When you are out of harmony with the law, you experience lack in your life, but that is just the experience you are creating. The Universe is continually giving, and so you must learn how to tune yourself with the harmony of the Universe. And the perfect melody is this: good thoughts, good words, and good actions.

Your thoughts and feelings are cause and what manifests is effect, so if you internalize what you are wanting you are completing all you have to do. As it is within, so it is without. As it is on the inside of you, so it is on the outside of you.

Remember, inside you is the cause and the outside world is the effect.

If you want to see a new political party take over the government, then be pro that political party. Not anti the incumbent! Focus on the outcome.


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