Sunday, January 29, 2012

Re-examination of relationships that no longer serve us.

Lately many relationships that no longer serve our soul's higher good are being re-examined. Divorces and separations are increasing in number.

Perhaps in Asia this may not be so obvious since Asians tend to be more reserved about divorce. However it's still on an uptrend. And couples may still be together but are actually already "separated" in heart.

2011-2015 (I may not get the years right) seems to be a period of upheaval even for individual families!

Chances are, if we're in a relationship that no longer serve our higher good, things or events are just gonna happen to make us re-evaluate that relationship and decide what we want to do with it.

Postponing decisions will only make it more painful and unbearable until we are forced to sit down and really look into it.

And when we look at it to re-evaluate it, we will really need to weigh it out: to stay on or to go.

If it no longer serves our higher good, then the most obvious answer would be to leave.

However, there is still free will. We can choose to stay on for whatever reason: for the children; to change someone; or anything.

But know that both decisions come with its own consequences and lessons. There is no right or wrong. A decision needs to be made in order to move on.

What's not ok is postponing any decision or expecting others to make the decision as this would mean not taking responsibility of our own life.

Personally I would prefer to end it since it no longer serves my higher good. But that's just my opinion.

And guess what? Sometimes when we see a couple arguing everyday, you may feel like you don't want to be the catalyst for them to argue or accidentally say something that would cause them to argue.

No... Look... It's not about you. You cannot stop it. If not you, it would be someone or something else anyway. So why live your life treading on glass when around such couples?

And look at it another way: if you know today that a couple needs to argue 1000x more before they make a decision that ultimately leads to both achieving their greatest human potential (whether together or separated), wouldn't it then make sense that they should go through that 1000x faster rather than slower or worst, not going through that 1000x at all and thus not achieving their potential.

Make sense?

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