What should we do in an extremely karmic relationship?

Interesting topic. Also a difficult topic. :-)


The best way to explain this would be to give an example.


Let's say we have two person whom are complete opposites come together in holy matrimony. Whatever that could have attracted them in the first place completely falls away after marriage and its like it just suddenly becomes living hell for either one or both.


From a spiritual perspective, let's also say that based on their astrology (Vedic, Chinese, Western etc etc) and/or numerology it is also obvious that this couple are complete opposites and is unthinkable that they can even be together. But... they are. And to make matters worst, their holy (or unholy :P) matrimony results in one party not achieving his/her fullest potential. Now that's shitty. In other words, obviously a very Karmic relationship.


What can be done?


Well, there is always Free Will to choose to end it. However, is that the right path to take? If there are no children, then obviously Free Will is quite a good option. But if there are children involved, then the solution is not that simple. Of course, if this is in the West, then again... divorce with or without children is no big deal and there are plenty of successful role models to follow. The kid(s) may also turn out better too. However, there are not many role models for this in the east. In the east (Asia), divorce is frowned upon. Most couples stay together, but are already apart at heart, just for the children. But this is not necessary the best solution for the kid(s). Especially if one party in the union is a bad influence to the kid(s).


In my humble opinion, before either party chooses to call it quits, they should still explore all possibilities of reconciliation. My reason is this. This is already obvious it is a karmic relationship. So you are going to have to pay this anyway. If not now, in another lifetime. From the spiritual perspective, it is like, you have decided that you want to learn this lesson. So, your soul, being all compassionate and all, would, even after you pass on in this physical lifetime without learning it, still most probably choose to learn this lesson in the next lifetime. So guess what? You most likely would repeat the same patterns the next lifetime. Worst... you repeat it with a worse partner!!


So, a better thing to do, in my humble opinion, would be to focus on the good things of your partner. And yes, this is difficult. But lets face it, no matter how much you do not like a person, everyone has his/her good points. You may be able to think of one million and one bad points and only one good point. Well... then just focus on that one good point. Just keep focusing on that one good point whenever you deal with your partner. This is taught in The Secret also. Keep focusing on that good point no matter what and you will attract that back from your partner. It does take a bit of work on your part. You can't change a person but you can appeal to a person's good side. 


And before anyone say it is difficult. Look... at present, you'll look at it as difficult because you are in the midst of it. Our problems always look more difficult than other people's. But once you are through it, when you are above it all, you will probably look back and wonder, "what was that all about?". At the soul level, you (as the soul) would look at it as it really isn't such a big issue when compared to the grander scheme of things.


If, however, despite your efforts, your partner stubbornly refuses to dance to your tune, then the Law of Attraction will not put you in the same space. You'll zig while he zags. In other words, you have done all that you could for the relationship. You are then ready to move on including filing for divorce as there is nothing more you can do to change the situation. Any further delay at that point would then mean your soul cannot do the other things it wants to do this lifetime. You have, in my humble opinion, learnt your lesson (maybe not all but a big one all the same) and other matters that are of importance to your soul becomes more important to fulfill now. Spiritually, you have grown by leaps and bounds while your partner has stayed put. your cup has grown huge while his/hers remained the same size. Karmically, you should be moving on to other lessons while your partner who have refused to learn, will be destined to repeat the same pattern in the next life with another soul who has the same patterns as him/her.


Wouldn't this be a better way out? Wouldn't this be more inline with your soul's path? Wouldn't this be compassion (you have done all that you can)? 



Fruit for thought isn't it?